There are days for each one of us that are more challenging than others. In fact, there are seasons in our lives when challenges obstruct our vision and divert our focus. These are the days and seasons when we face the make or break of our lives, of our businesses, of our relationships. That sounds serious, right? It sure is – make or break literally means exactly that – everything in our lives can either be made or broken during challenges. That is the reason we need to address this topic, How To Discover Your Why & Why It’s Important.
A little disclaimer before we continue, I am not a qualified psychologist or medical professional, I just have a fascination for everything to do with our minds. Please enjoy this article but do not replace any professional advise with what you read here.
Why Is It Important to Discover Your Why
Not everyone lives with clarify of why they do what they do. In fact, the likelihood is that more of us live on route, just doing our daily thing without much thought as to why. Without an understanding of why, there is no reason to do everything it takes to get to where we want to go.
According to an article written by Marcel Schantes, Science say only 8% of people achieve their goals. That means that 92% of all human beings do not achieve their goals! That is a staggering number! 92%!
In the article mentioned above they go on to list 7 Things that goal achievers Do Differently – the first one being “Begin with the End In Mind”.
“The End” is your why.
Let’s have a look at what my why is for this business, Late Bloomer Wealthy Affiliate and Online Entrepreneur:
- To create financial freedom
- To create geographic freedom
- To make a difference in the lives of others
These three things keep me going when the going gets tough. Make no mistake, there is no journey in life that is totally free-sailing. Even though I am building a business that I love and I know exactly WHY I am building this online business, I too have seasons that are tougher than others.
Even when you are doing everything you love, you can become ill or injured. Even when you are deeply engrossed in creating your ideal life, things can go pear shaped with people you love. Unforeseen financial challenges can take the wind out of your sails. If I did not have a clear understanding of what my why is, there are days when staying in bed, or doing as Garfield and “just sitting” would suit me best!
~ Sometimes I sit and think, sometimes I just sit ~ Garfield
Discovering my why helps me through the tough patches, keeps me on course. Some days are slower than others, but I am still moving in the right direction – my compass is set in the direction I want to travel and I understand exactly what is so important about the necessary daily actions, even when I am ill!
When we understand our true driving forces, (our why) everything else makes sense and becomes more bearable when times get tough.
How To Discover Your Why
For me, this has been a multi-layered journey and I am very grateful that there is an opportunity for me to share with you here.
My first journey to discovering my why was when I was in training with The Six Figure Mentors, they do really great mindset training. Have a read of the Six Figure Mentors Review I wrote, this goes into detail about how I loved them but left them – you never know, they may be right for you.
As I said, SFM does great mindset training and they encourage their members to do a number of things which takes you right into the core of your why. For example, one of the Worksheets we completed reasons all about our Values. Have you ever considered what your values are? Most of us take for granted that we understand exactly what our values are, this is one of the reasons in life that we just live out as a result of our upbringing, our schooling, community and work environment. What if we took the time to actually examine what those values truly mean to us? Are they a reflection of us as individuals or are we just living within the expected norm of our environments? Here are a few examples of what your values could be:
Connection, Playfulness, Kindness, Truth, Adventure, Power,
Trust, Balance, Bravery, Love, Integrity, Wealth
Mine values are fairly simple to identify because I am a Christian so my values are in keeping with the Fruits of the Spirit, these are as follows (as can be seen in Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fruit_of_the_Holy_Spirit) :
Now note, they were simple to identify – do I have all of these values completely ingrained in who I am? No, not even close. I value every single of them and aspire to them though. In addition to these, I also value family, adventure, truth, connection, honestly, forgiveness and more.
How about you? Have you every considered what your values are? Once you have considered them, or in the process of considering them, also consider why you value those things so highly. Once you have an understanding of what you value, and I mean truly value down into the core of who you are as a human being, you have a starting point. Everything you do from there should work hand in hadn with your values, these are your guiding principles and will assist you with the choices you make.
I have created a Free Worksheet for you to download & spend some time on getting clarity when it comes to what you truly value. You will be amazed at how this can create a simple compass for your life and the decisions you make. It is a printable pdf so you can work your way through it at a time that suits you best.
2. Go 7 Levels Deep
This is something I learned with some training I have done with Legendary marketer, their training is also exceptional, though in a completely different way to that of SFM. You are welcome to read my review here entitled, Is Legendary Marketer A Scam Or What?
Incidentally, this was originally learned from Dean Graziozi, an exceptionally successful man in many ways, so it’s safe to say that he has a lot of knowledge to share – you can read more about him here.
In this exercise, you answer 7 questions (hence 7 levels deep). the instruction is “This exercise is SIMPLE and is designed to help you go DEEPER to find out why you really want to start a business – you can relate this to any area of your life, marriage, parenthood, career etc., we were discussing online business at the time.
They encourage you to be a quiet place where you will not be distracted and give yourself 15 to 20 minutes to really go deep and discover your true why.
Question 1. if I have a successful online business (or whatever it is you are focusing on), what would that do for me
So my first answer was about financial and geographical freedom and the ability to make a difference (financially and time-wise) in the lives of others. There is more to this but, ie how will those things make a difference in my life and the lives of those I plan to contribute to.
– Financial freedom – pay off my home, send my daughter to a varsity of her choice, relocate to the coast, travel etc.
– Geographic freedom – afford to live anywhere in the world and make a difference in that place – I would love to be a missionary, probably working with orphaned and disadvantaged children.
Question 2. If I’m able to have and achieve (whatever the answer was in no. 1, like financial and geographical freedom), what will that show me about myself, or allow me to do, be or have?
Question 3. If I have able to have and achieve (replace with the answer from no. 2), what will that show me about myself or allow me to do, be or have?
Question 4. If I am able to have and achieve (replace the answer with no. 3 above), what will that show me about myself, or allow me to do, be or have?
Question 5. If I am able to have and achieve (replace the answer with no. 4 above), what will that show me about myself, or allow me to do, be or have?
Question 6. If I am able to have and achieve (replace the answer with no. 5 above), what will that show me about myself, or allow me to do, be or have?
Question 7. If I am able to have and achieve (replace the answer with no. 6 above), what will that show me about myself, or allow me to do, be or have?
At first glance, this may seem like an easy exercise – if you are anything like me though, by the time you get to even question 2, it starts becoming quite something to take head-on. This is a very important exercise, it took me a couple of days to gather the courage to do it – I hope you are brave enough to get stuck in – it will be well worth your time and all the effort it takes. You will notice that I stopped filling in my answers from Question 2 onward, because they are tough questions to answer (at least that is how it was for me) and I would prefer to keep my answers private. When you do the exercise, I am sure you will appreciate the reasoning.
I have created a Free Worksheet for you to dowload and do this exercise. Print it out, find the quiet place and time and write in your answers – I have no doubt this process will astound you, it certainly did me!
3. A Perfect Day In Your Ideal Life
With Six Figure Mentors we were encouraged to write a story about a perfect day in our ideal lives. This took me quite a bit of time, as it did many of the other students from what I understand. So, don’t rush this exercise. It can also become a bit of a work in progress, there may be days when you feel the need to tweak what you have written, so this is not set in stone.
Essentially with this exercise you write the details of how your perfect day would go in your ideal life. Start out with exactly how you would wake up, where you are, who you are with, how your feel and what you do. I will share some of mine with you as follows:
“I awaken to the sound of the sea and can smell the ocean breeze blowing through my open windows. The windows are open because I live in a safe environment, no need to burglar bar. My home is light and airy, warm and welcoming, with a mix of gorgeous floor tiles in the kitchen, patio and bathrooms, wooden floors in the lounge, passage and study and sumptuous carpeting in the bedrooms. The windows and doors are wooden frames, and my furbabies enjoy the freedom to come in and out. I live in a little town on the coast of Australia, perfect for me. It is a safe, friendly community and I have a group of warm friends who have the same spiritual beliefs as me and together we enjoy making a difference in the lives of others. Our lives are intertwined; we enjoy taking long walks along the beautiful beach, sharing meals together, in each other’s home, picnics on the beach and braais in one another’s gardens. Special occasions, sunsets and sunrises. My garden is a peaceful haven, a riot of colour and fragrance, one of my many prides and joys. The vegetable garden is tended to with lots of love and feeds not only me but also those around me – friends who swap delicious goodies from their gardens for those in mine; soup kitchens, children’s home and shelters.”
As you can see, there is a lot of detail here, you can go into even more than that if you choose. It is important that you describe everything in as much minute detail as you can. The smells, the sounds, the sights and how you feel, the feeling part is extremely important.
My perfect day ends off as follows:
“The afternoon is laid back. I potter around in the garden, watering and weeding, read and chill before preparing a light meal for the evening. Winding down at night, I watch the sun go down over the sea, how blessed I am with this patio where I can sit and watch the sunset from my home. Today has been another fabulous day, my heart is full, God is good, I am living His purpose for my life. Touching base with family all over the world is so very important to me, I do this via Skype, Facebook, Messenger, WhatsApp during the evenings. We don’t always speak but we do communicate, even if it’s just sharing a silly something.
A hot shower, stretches to further relax my body, I sink gratefully into a warm bed, read, pray and sleep. Furbabies curled up with me, purring. How blessed, how blessed.”
I encourage you to write your Perfect Day in Your Ideal Life. Mine speaks about mostly about me as I am an empty-nester, yours could include your spouse, children, parents – whoever you live with or plan to live with in the future. The ideal life that you could all be living together. Some of my colleagues wrote about their future husband or wife and they lives they would have together, growing the family, having children etc. It is YOUR Perfect Day in YOUR Ideal Life.
I now use my Perfect Day in My Ideal Life as a vision tool. The idea is to read it every morning and every night which encourages you to work towards living that life. There is a connection between imagining the life you desire and creating it. This has to do with how your conscious and subconscious brain works – it’s quite fascinating.
How To Discover Your Why & Why It’s Important
I have given you three methods to work through, each one of them has led me to a greater understanding of my why. I truly believe they do the same for you, and hope you will complete them. I would love to hear about your experiences, please share them with me in the comments below.
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